A recently married man took to the Reddit board to see if she was in the wrong for not telling his wife what others were saying about her dancing at their wedding.
A Love Story: OP and His Wife
OP and his wife, both 29 years old, recently got married on the 10th anniversary of the day OP asked her to be his girlfriend.
They have been together since their first year of university and have faced many challenges and triumphs together, which has strengthened their bond.
OP is certain that there is no one else he wants to spend his life with.
Wedding Celebration for OP and His Wife
OP and his wife celebrated their wedding day with Spanish traditions, as OP’s wife is half-Spanish.
The wedding ceremony incorporated many Spanish customs, and the reception turned into a lively celebration with the presence of her family members.
The festive atmosphere made the reception a memorable party.
His Family Criticized His Wife’s Dancing at the Wedding Reception
After dancing for a while, OP became tired and decided to take a break to sit and chat with his family members. Meanwhile, his wife continued dancing with her cousins and friends.
During their conversation, OP’s mother and aunt expressed their displeasure with his wife’s dancing style to songs like “Low” and “SexyBack”.
They criticized her moves, particularly her “sexy drops” and “wiggling her bottom”, and deemed them inappropriate and disrespectful to OP on their wedding day.
He Defended His Wife’s Dance Moves at Their Wedding Reception
OP didn’t see anything wrong with the way his wife was dancing to songs like “Low” and “SexyBack” at their wedding reception.
He believed that her dance moves were no different from how anyone would dance at a club when having fun and a few drinks.
OP Refused to Ask His Wife to Change Her Dancing Style
When his mother and aunt suggested that he should ask his wife to tone it down, OP disagreed.
He felt that his wife was simply enjoying herself with her friends, and her dancing wasn’t excessive or inappropriate.
As a result, he didn’t feel that it was his place to intervene. The party ended soon after this conversation.
Aunt Made a Rude Comment to His Wife After the Wedding
The morning after their wedding, OP and his wife had breakfast with his family, and his aunt made a comment to his wife about being pleased that he had eventually convinced her to “tone down the fiesta.”
She Was Apologetic but Upset After Hearing About the Conversation
When his wife asked for clarification, his mother recounted the conversation from the previous night, which OP had not heard as he was talking to his dad and uncle.
His wife apologized but became very quiet for the remainder of the day.
She Became Upset at Him for Not Talking to Her
Later, when they left the hotel, she expressed her disappointment with OP for not informing her about her family’s concerns during the reception.
She felt humiliated that his aunt had assumed that he had already discussed the matter with her.
They Disagreed on How Things Were Handled
OP felt sorry that his wife was humiliated, but he did not regret his decision not to ask her to tone down her dance moves. As far as he was concerned, she had done nothing wrong.
But his wife thought that he should have informed her of the situation.
Now, she’s afraid that she won’t have a good relationship with her in-laws, much like her own parents.
She Felt Like She Needed to Apologize
OP was upset with his mother and aunt’s behavior and believed that they should apologize to them, but his wife didn’t want to confront them and was willing to apologize to them herself when they visited over the weekend.
This made OP angry! He wanted to stand up for his wife and thought that his relatives were being incredibly rude, but his wife simply wanted to reconcile with them.
They Couldn’t See Eye to Eye
Despite his efforts to explain his viewpoint, his wife remained upset with him as he failed to understand her perspective and was not apologetic for not informing her.
OP sought advice on whether he was the one at fault in this situation.
Neither of Them Are at Fault
Most Reddit users agree that OP and his wife are not at fault in this situation. They believe that OP’s family was rude and controlling when they criticized his wife’s dancing at their own wedding.
They suggest that OP should stand up for his wife and give his family consequences for their behavior, or else they will continue to act this way throughout their relationship.
They Agreed With OP
Some users also point out the racist undertones in the family’s comments, particularly when they told OP’s wife to “tone down the fiesta.”
They advise OP to have a conversation with his wife about how to handle the situation, but ultimately let her make the decision on how to address the family’s behavior.
Overall, most users agree that the most important relationship in this situation is the one between OP and his wife.
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