In a recent Reddit post, a person found herself facing a dilemma that stirred up conflicting emotions within her. Here’s the full story.
Her Boyfriend Is a Chef
The Original Poster (OP), Sarah, shared that her boyfriend, “Dan,” happens to be a chef, and on previous birthdays, he had graciously taken charge of preparing special meals for her.
She’s Wondering if It’s Right
However, this year, circumstances had taken an unexpected turn, leaving Sarah questioning whether it was fair to ask him to continue this tradition.
They Had a Healthy Relationship
In their relationship, Sarah often takes on the role of the cook when they share meals together at their apartments.
Birthdays Were Important in Her Family
When it came to birthdays, Sarah’s family had a different approach. Birthdays in her family were a big deal.
They Had a Special Dish for Themselves
Each year, her parents and all three of her siblings gather to celebrate creating an atmosphere filled with love, laughter, and cherished traditions.
She Had Enjoyed Her Favorite Dish From Childhood
One such tradition involves having a particular dish that they have been enjoying on their respective birthdays since they were children.
Sarah had been enjoying her dish since she was five.
It’s Hugely Sentimental
This dish holds sentimental value, connecting them to fond memories and family ties.
Love on a Plate
In recent years, Sarah had asked Dan to make this special meal for her, adding an extra layer of significance to the occasion.
An Unexpected Situation
However, this year presented an unforeseen challenge.
Sarah’s birthday fell on a Friday, and as she excitedly made plans, she approached Dan to ensure he would be available to prepare the cherished dish.
To her surprise, he informed her that he couldn’t make it this year.
He Gave His Reasons
Confused, she asked why, and he explained that, due to his Christian beliefs, he refrains from consuming meat on Fridays.
The Dish Contradicted With His Faith
This particular dish contained meat, making it incompatible with his personal religious practices.
She Was Shocked
Caught off guard, Sarah offered compromises, suggesting alternative options that would accommodate his beliefs.
But He Wouldn’t Budge
But Dan rejected her suggestions and remained firm in his decision, proposing alternatives of his own, such as making the dish without meat, finding another dish for him to prepare, or making the dish the next day.
She Didn’t Like the Alternatives
None of these options sat well with Sarah. They deviated from her established family tradition and risked disappointing her parents, who attached great importance to this annual ritual.
She Asked Her Mother for Advice
Feeling torn and seeking guidance, she reached out to her mother for advice.
After explaining the situation, the mother empathized with her dilemma and shared her belief that Dan should simply make the cherished dish.
She Thought He’d Come Around
Encouraged by her family’s support, she was convinced that Dan would eventually come around and fulfill my birthday wish.
But He Still Refused
However, as the days went by, Dan remained steadfast in his refusal to prepare the dish.
She’s Still Unsure of Herself
Sarah felt bad about the situation and took to Reddit to ask whether she was being wrong.
She’s Being Lazy and Selfish
More than seven hundred comments poured in saying that OP was in the wrong for what happened.
One Reddit user wrote, “There is nothing preventing you from making this complicated dish yourself or your family member that was making it when you were 5 can make it. Your BF doesn’t want to spend that time making it and then not get to enjoy it. You could move the party to Saturday, but you’re too selfish or thoughtless to do so.”
The Problem Is on Her
Another Redditor pointed out that he gave OP a good reason why he couldn’t do it on Friday and he gave other options, but they weren’t good enough and that’s on her.
She Needs to Learn to Respect His Beliefs
A third Reddit user commented, “YTA. He always makes the dish, but due to his religious views, he can’t do that specific dish this year. So instead of respecting him as an individual for his religious views, your response is to cry about it and get your family to gang up on him?”
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