She Assumed Mom Would Pay For Her Free Bar At Her Wedding, But Mom Refused Which Triggers A Groom And Bride Meltdown

Recently on Reddit, a big discussion was triggered by a Redditor who sought advice from the community on whether she was wrong for refusing to pay for a free bar at her daughter’s wedding.

They Have a Great Relationship

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The Redditor said that both she and her husband had a great relationship with the daughter, but the drinks’ cost had caused a major argument.

Agreed to Pay For Most of the Wedding

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The Original Poster (OP) said that she had agreed to cover most of the wedding expenses, including catering, flowers, and cake.

They said they wouldn’t pay for a wedding dress, veil, and headpiece; these were a gift bought for the daughter by the grandparents.

Drinks Were the Issue

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When it came to the drinks, the daughter and her fiancé wanted a free bar paid for by OP and her husband.

The daughter was upset with the mom for not agreeing to cover the cost of every drink for their guests, but she was insistent they wouldn’t do it. 

The thread generated lively debate among Redditors.

Things Got Heated

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OP described the fiancé as usually someone who is laid back, but who called her an explitive name and accused her of “trying to control them and dictate what they do for their wedding, and I don’t have the right to.”

She Tried to be Pragmatic

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To get around the issue, OP proposed to set a budget of $10 per drink and asked that the guests or the couple would have to cover the remaining cost.

It Seemed to be the Right Approach

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She said that expensive drinks were between $7-$8, so $10 seemed about right. She thought, “I didn’t think it was unreasonable for me to set the boundaries for my budget, so I wasn’t upset about it.”

It Triggered Them

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OP called her daughter to tell her what she was doing, but it only seemed to make things worse. Her daughter was still angry; a limit per drink wasn’t enough, and she and her fiancé again called OP another bad name.

She Was Setting a Drink Limit Only

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OP recognized that her decision to set a $10 limit per drink may have made her seem like he was in the wrong, however, she added that this didn’t mean she was setting a limit on her overall contribution.

OP finished the story by asking Reddit where she was wrong? She said, “I don’t think I am, but I’ll take my verdict fair and square.”

She Asked Reddit For Their Opinion

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Moony-21 gave the most upvoted response saying that OP was not the a**hole (NTA). They said, “Your daughter sounds entitled and spoiled.”

Take It Or Leave It

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Another Redditor, Aussie_nub added, “There’s a super easy way to fix that. ‘Sorry kiddo, we’ve decided that we’re no longer paying for the bar.’ If they continue to fight it ‘Ok, no problem. You can have whatever you like now that you’re paying for it all.'”

What Do You Think?

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The common response from other Redditors was that the mom was NTA. But what do you think? Was the mom within her rights to put her foot down? Was the olive branch of the $10 limit enough, or should she not even have done that?

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