A young man whipped up concern and advice among Redditors when he revealed that he refused to live in the house his future in-laws wanted to buy for him and his bride. The problem was that the gift came with all sorts of strings. Here is the full story.
They’re Different but In Love
OP is a 29-year-old man who is engaged to a 27-year-old woman.
The two love each other very much, but come from very different backgrounds.
They Had a Tough Road
While the bride-to-be comes from an upper middle class American family, OP moved to the United States with his parents and siblings when he was just 6 years old.
His parents always worked very hard for everything they had.
He Wanted Something of His Own
OP’s dad always told him that his big dream in life was to live in a house that he owned, and that desire stuck with OP all through the years.
They Were All About the Kids
But OP’s parents were more dedicated to their children than to chasing their own dreams, and everything they had went into making sure their kids got an education growing up.
It Was an Unfortunate Turn
Both his mom and dad died before they were able to buy a home.
College Was Hard and Easy
OP was able to go to college through a combination of student loans, scholarships, and part-time jobs.
Meanwhile, his fiance’s parents paid for her school, though OP says she studied hard and did great work.
Fate Brought Them Together
OP and his fiance met on the job, where they were hired into the same position, making the same salary, after each had finished college.
They Let Fate Guide Them
They hit it off right away and started dating not long afterward.
He’s a Fast Riser
In the 6 years since then, they’ve both stayed at the same company, with OP making big strides in his career.
He’s now earning about twice what his fiance does, though he says he got some lucky breaks along the way.
They’re Making It Official
OP finally proposed to his girlfriend about 6 months ago, and she accepted.
They were overjoyed about what their future together held, and her family seemed pretty happy, too.
They Had a Big Surprise
More recently, OP and his fiance were visiting her family, and her parents announced a big surprise.
They were going to give their daughter and OP a house as a wedding gift.
It Sounded Too Good to Be True
OP’s fiance was ecstatic, and he was pretty excited, too…until he heard all the details.
It Was All Hers
It seems the parents were only going to put their daughter’s name on the house, leaving OP out completely.
And they also wanted him to sign a prenup stating that any assets his fiance brought to the marriage were hers alone.
They Wanted It Both Ways
To add insult to injury, OP’s future in-laws also told him that the prenup would spell out that any assets he acquired during the marriage were joint property.
It was like they wanted to make sure their daughter got a piece of his ever-increasing salary forever.
He Didn’t Need Her Money
OP was insulted that they thought he was after his fiance’s money, and he pointed out that he made a lot more than she did.
It Was a Slap in the Face
What OP really couldn’t get over, though, was the idea that he would be living in a house that someone else owned.
It went against everything his parents had worked so hard to accomplish all their lives.
He Would Not Accept Their “Gift”
So OP told his fiance and her parents that he would not live in a house that he does not own.
All three of them were outraged by how ungrateful he was, and tensions ran high for several weeks.
They Found a Compromise
In the end, after everyone had some time to cool down and OP and his fiance talked through it a few times, they came to a compromise.
He would sign the prenup and also pay for a quarter of the house.
He Has His Doubts
In return, OP’s name will be on the title, right alongside his future wife’s.
Peace has been restored for the moment, but OP doubts it will last.
They Were Concerned About the Children
In talking through the prenup and house with OP, his fiance admitted that part of her parents’ hesitation in putting his name on the title had to do with his background.
Early in their relationship, her folks had expressed concern that their future children would look “different.”
The Future Is Cloudy
OP had never seen any signs of overt racism from his future in-laws, but he’s concerned about what sorts of problems might pop up in the future.
Given what he knows now, he’s less certain than ever about the family dynamics.
He Was Completely Justified
Most Redditors think that OP was justified for insisting that the house had to be in his name, too, or he wasn’t going to live in it.
They understand not wanting to be a tenant in his wife’s house, and no one thinks OP is after her money.
They Were Just Looking Out for Her
But several commenters also think OP’s future in-laws are just looking out for their money and their daughter’s future.
Many don’t see much fault on either side and think the family should continue to work on compromises.
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