Is He Wrong for Asking His Girlfriend to Uphold a Sexist Tradition Just So She Can Make a Good First Impression?

In a viral Reddit post that got more than twenty-seven thousand upvotes, a user found himself grappling with the predicament of holding a sexist tradition. Here’s the full story.

The Story Begins

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The original poster (OP) and his girlfriend have been dating for a while.

OP’s extended family is quite close-knit, and every few months, they gather for large family feasts at the estate of his great-grandfather.

A Sexist Tradition

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Normally, the men don’t go to the kitchen during their visit, while the women do all the cooking. It is their family tradition.

OP shares that he is very aware that this is blatantly sexist. Plus, OP is the youngest member of the family, so his protests are essentially meaningless.

OP shares that some of the women in his family have opted not to cook, and this typically results in some sort of rejection.

When a new woman like a newly married wife or a girlfriend doesn’t cook, she is faced with rejection, silence, and rudeness from other family members.

The Couple Were Invited for the Feast

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The story began when OP and his girlfriend were invited to attend this dinner, which is scheduled for two weeks from today.

She initially replied “Yes,” which made OP very happy.

He Told Her About the Tradition

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OP says that he wants her to get to know everyone and become accustomed to being around, but when OP explained the cooking custom to her, she was understandably upset.

She Was Against It

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OP told her that while he could see her tradition doesn’t have these types of things, it would be better if she just went along with it.

OP assured her that he wasn’t asking her to do this permanently and that he was only requesting it so she could avoid receiving unfavorable treatment from the rest of the family.

He Argues That It Was Just to Make a Good First Impression

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OP doesn’t believe it’s ideal if they create a stir since this is her first impression.

But she told OP that she would not be going if she had to do that, since it was unacceptable.

She won’t budge, and she’s angry with OP, despite his attempts to reach an understanding with her on this.

She Said He Was Bad as Others

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She told OP that he is just as terrible as everyone else if he believes it’s acceptable to have her do this.

But OP argues that she needs to do it to create a good first impression.

He Is Sexist, Too

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OP took to Reddit to ask if he was wrong for what he asked and thousands of comments poured in saying that OP was a jerk.

One Reddit user wrote, “YTA. This is how all sexism starts and continues – “just go along. It will be so much easier (for us) and we’ll make your life hell if you don’t.””

Another Redditor pointed out OP is wrong as he is mainly concerned with his girlfriend making a good first impression, but not at all concerned with his family making a good first impression.

He Should Start Cooking

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A third Reddit user wrote, “YTA for trying to make her do something she doesn’t want to do. Why don’t you start creating a new tradition where you/other men cook too? You being the youngest don’t mean you have to be complacent. Maybe the woman wants to cook, but your partner doesn’t have to. if the family doesn’t accept her, don’t go to the dinners.”

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