The sister of a transgender brother faces a dilemma when her brother chooses a name that sounds like her 4-year-old son’s name.
As the sister of a transgender brother, she has always tried to be as supportive as possible, especially since their parents are transphobic.
She has been a staunch ally of their brother since he came out this year, bringing him a binder and flag, and standing up to their parents when they said hurtful things about him.
The sister has a 4-year-old son named Finley, who has always been fond of his uncle.
When her brother came out, she explained to Finley what being transgender means, and the child was completely accepting.
However, things have become complicated now that the brother is considering a name change.
Over the past four months, the brother has gone through several names as he tried to settle on one that felt right.
He recently messaged the sister to say he has found a name he likes – Finn.
Her mouth dropped in shock, because Finley, her child’s name, is often shortened to Finn by his friends.
Trying not to be harsh, the sister messaged back, “But Finley?”
The brother responded that Finn is a completely different name, and he doesn’t go by Finley.
The speaker tried to explain that it would be confusing for her child and others in the family, but the brother refused to budge.
The conversation ended on an uncomfortable note, and the sister hasn’t talked to her brother in two days.
She feels torn between supporting her brother’s gender identity and ensuring that her child is not confused or hurt by the name change.
What would you do? Do you think the sister isn’t being supportive or is her brother being selfish?
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