A woman took to Reddit recently to ask for opinions about asking her husband to work overtime to help pay the bills after she had surgery. This is her full story.
They Were a Small Family
OP is a woman who is married to a man. Both of them have jobs, and OP also has a daughter.
He Won’t Do Anything Extra
All through their marriage, OP’s husband has refused to work overtime, and he’s very protective of his time off.
He wants to do what he wants to do when he’s off the clock, and OP has always respected those wishes.
She Covered His Butt
During the COVID-19 pandemic, OP’s husband lost his job, which put a real strain on their finances.
OP picked up the slack by working 6-7 days a week to make sure their bills got paid until her husband found another job.
She Wanted a Quick Fix
More recently, OP fell very ill and had to visit the emergency room. She hoped they’d get her fixed up quickly so she could work her next shift, which was just a few hours away.
But It Was Much More Serious
Instead, OP’s health problems turned out to be more severe. She had to be hospitalized and underwent surgery the next day.
That kept her out of work for a couple of days and nixed a bonus that she was counting on.
He Laid Down the Law
But before she even went under the knife, OP’s husband told her she’d just have to work on her next two scheduled days to make up for the loss.
They Were Losing Money
After the surgery, though, OP was in a lot of pain, and doctors did not clear her for work in time to clock in on those off days.
Her husband became angrier and angrier with each lost dollar!
She Was Short on Cash
When OP got home from the hospital, her husband asked her if she’d still be able to pay her share of the bills.
She told him that she’d probably fall short because of her lost income.
Could He Cover Her This Once?
Then OP asked her husband if he could make up the difference by working on one of his off days. That set him off again!
He Said She Was Selfish
OP’s hubby told her it was selfish for her to expect him to work extra just to cover her half of the expenses.
He then suggested that she would have to sell some of her belongings if she couldn’t come up with the money to pay the bills.
She Did Whatever It Took
That really stung OP because she had covered her husband’s part of the bills during the pandemic and never griped about it.
She just worked extra days and hours and kept the family afloat while he was out of work.
She Didn’t Ask Him to Sacrifice
OP never even hinted that her husband should sell any of his stuff to pay the bills.
The thought never even crossed her mind.
Weren’t They Partners?
It hurt that OP’s husband refused to pitch in when he needed her the most.
She knew marriage was supposed to be a 50/50 proposition.
She Rolled Up Her Sleeves for Him
But OP also thinks that sometimes, you just have to roll up your sleeves and pitch in a little extra, especially when your spouse is in need.
Almost without exception, Redditors sided with OP.
They told her that her husband was acting like a spoiled brat, and they wondered whatever happened to the “for better or for worse, in sickness and in health” part of their wedding vows.
Many commenters advised OP to get out of marriage immediately. They said her husband was an abuser, even if he never laid a finger on her.
In the end, that’s exactly what she did. A little while after her original post and after interacting with several of the Redditors, OP came back to provide an update.
She and her daughter moved out, and the marriage was over.
So, what do you think of this story? Is there any way to spin the husband’s behavior as acceptable?
Or is he a lost cause and OP took the only real option by leaving him and their marriage behind.?
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