A recent Reddit post has sparked a debate regarding a person’s right to express concern about someone’s sexual orientation. Here’s the full story.
His Best Friends Were Gay
The Original Poster’s (OP) best friend, Shiv, and another friend, Wesley, are currently dating.
They are gay, and they began dating in high school.
Currently, the trio is attending the same college away from home.
They Came Out Two Years Ago
OP shared a story about when this romance began two years ago.
At first, OP had a lot of questions about Wesley’s motivations.
OP assumed he wouldn’t come out because, after all, he was a popular guy and the most well-liked boy in OP’s class.
Becoming Gay Turned Cool At School
Then, however, he came out and publicly began dating Shiv, kissing before class and all that.
He had a good reputation before coming out, and that didn’t change.
This was when things became interesting.
His Friends Mistakenly Thought They Were Gay
After Wesley came out as gay, many other friends of OP mistakenly believed that they were non-binary, trans, gay, etc. before they discovered they weren’t.
It was as though being queer had become hip and popular at OP’s school. Nearly everyone who wasn’t really LGBT was coming out.
A Queer Club Was Founded
Things became more exciting when Wesley and Shiv eventually founded a queer club at their school because there wasn’t one before.
Suddenly, the queer club was the “cool” place to be.
His Friend’s Sister Wanted to Be Bi
At this time, Shiv’s younger sister told OP that she wished she was bi and that she had a strong desire to join the LGBT community.
She ultimately didn’t join the club because she was straight.
The Present Day Surprise
Fast forward to today. When OP, Wesley, and Shiv returned home for holidays from college, OP found out that she was now in charge of the LGBT club.
She revealed that she was bi and had a girlfriend. OP was shocked to hear this because she was straight.
Everyone praised and congratulated her, but OP refrained from it until he spoke with her privately.
He Told Her She Isn’t Bi
Later, OP approached her privately and expressed his concerns. OP told her that he doesn’t think she was bi, and he thought she was just forcing herself to be like her brother and it would hurt her in the end.
As a result, she got really angry and pointed out that she told OP she wished she was bi years ago.
She said she was bi then but didn’t realize it because it was a slow burn. It was different from what her brother experienced, so it took her longer to realize she liked girls.
He Was Accused of Being Homophobic
But OP was skeptical!
She accused OP of homophobia, adding that if she were dating a man, OP wouldn’t be questioned.
She said he wasn’t allowed to question her sexuality as a straight person.
His Friend Was Angry at Him
She then told Wesley about what happened, and he became furious at OP.
He advised OP to keep his mouth shut, that being gay is challenging, and that OP shouldn’t have questioned her.
He claimed that although everything worked out, coming out wasn’t easy for him and that he was afraid of what his friends would say.
He Felt Bad for What He Said
OP felt bad about what happened and he took to Reddit to ask for opinions.
Several Redditors said that OP was wrong for what he said.
Redditors Weren’t Kind
One Reddit user wrote, “Even if you think she isn’t bi, you aren’t her and you never know. Plus you mentioned she has a gf, which to me means she likes girls… And the fact that you think she did it because of her brother. Maybe her brother just gave her the confidence to come out. The reality is you aren’t her and you don’t know how she is feeling so you don’t get to have an opinion.”
Another Redditor pointed out that OP is wrong for not only deciding that he knows someone else’s sexuality/sexual identity better than they do but then being ridiculously condescending about it to her.
A third Reddit user commented, “Why does it matter to you? If she says she’s bi let her be bi you’re not in her head and young people experiment all the time. Let her figure it out for herself. She doesn’t need your approval and didn’t ask for it.”
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He’s a Family Man
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Bucky’s Parking Predicament
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